Few days ago I was facilitating my first Mowgli mentoring workshop in Amman, the Leader Mentor Training Programme (LMT). I was too excited to move to the next level of the Mowgli Experience . Each level and role has its own flavour, lessons learned and relationships.
During that session, I was listening to my colleague Raed while he was explaining the relationship and the empathy between the mentors and the mentees, at that time a scene from my favourite TV series the Big Bang Theory came to my mind (or my internal journalist start to talk to me, a familiar concept Mowgli family members).
I shared the story of the scene to the workshop participants, which I invite you to watch before I continue with my comments. (The transcript of the scene is available at the end)
As Sheldon Cooper said in this video “It is to me; that’s the point.” I liked this scene because it shows how the what happens to people when they open up and start to talk about themselves and the real feelings. The role of the listener sometimes it is much harder to balance between being transparent, show empathy and truest worthy. The listener should not focus on the problem from his/her own point of view, it is important to listen to the deep feelings of the speaker as it will help building the trust in the relation.
I liked what Prof. Sheldon Cooper said in this scene “It is to me; that’s the point.” and I will keep it always in my mind and share it with my colleagues whenever I can. In my opinion this is the best Mentor Mentee relationship and I hope one day I can prove it with the success of the mentees
Scene: The apartment.
Sheldon: Here is a hot beverage to comfort you. It’s in a to-go cup. Make of that what you will.
Penny: Come on. It’s still early. Let’s do something.
Sheldon: Well, I have been toying around with an idea for 4D chess.
Penny: How about we just talk?
Sheldon: All right. In 4D chess…
Penny: No. Come on, let’s talk about our lives. Tell me something about you I don’t know.
Sheldon: I own nine pairs of pants.
Penny: Okay, that, that’s a good start, but I was thinking maybe something a little more personal.
Sheldon: I see. I own nine pairs of underpants.
Penny: How about I go first?
Sheldon: But I don’t want to know how many underpants you own. Although, based on the floor of your bedroom, I’d say it’s a thousand.
Penny: Okay, look, here’s something people do not know about me. When I first moved out to L.A., I did a topless scene in a low-budget horror movie about a killer gorilla. Ugh! After I did it, I felt so ashamed. Thankfully, that thing never came out.
Sheldon: I’ve seen that. Yeah. Serial Apeist. Howard found it online the day we met you.
Penny: Oh, God.
Sheldon: And it was literally the moment you walked out the door. But I see the type of personal revelations you’re going for. Okay, here’s one I thought I’d take to the grave.
Sheldon: Hmm. A while back, YouTube changed its user interface from a star-based rating system to a thumbs-up rating system. I tell people I’m okay with it, but I’m really not.
Penny: That’s your big revelation?
Sheldon: Yes. Whew, I feel ten pounds lighter.
Penny: Okay, you know what? I give up. I’m going to bed.
Sheldon: Here’s something else you don’t know about me. You just hurt my feelings.
Penny: What did I do?
Sheldon: I opened up and shared something deeply upsetting to me, and you treated it as if it were nothing.
Penny: I, I didn’t think it was a big deal.
Sheldon: It is to me; that’s the point.
Penny: Sheldon, you are right. I’m really sorry. I should’ve known better.
Sheldon: Your apology is accepted.
Penny: Thank you. How about a hug?
Sheldon: How about a hearty handshake?
Penny: Come on.